Monday, July 6, 2009

Redefining One's Self

I have a question for you all, that hopefully you may be able to answer. And no need to to wait for permission to respond, you all can reply and are encouraged to reply.

How do you reinvent yourself? I hear that with each semester we are allowed a chance to redefine ourselves, to become those people who we want to become? But what about shy guy type struggling to burst out of his shell? If a group of people with whom he associates with perceives him as a shy guy, and does nothing to help ease his transition, will his changes be noticed? Will he no longer be shunted off to the side as the shy guy that he was and allow themselves to view said guy in a different light, with a different perception?

That, I suppose is my question. How can the shy guy break out of his shell? Maybe the answer is as simple as attempting to be more conversational. Or maybe it isn't.

There just happens to be some people with whom I associate with, that due to acts of shyness and aloofness, I feel shunted off to the side.

So I'm just wondering how I can fix that so things are so awkward for me.


Fredjikrang said...

I've been thinking about this a lot since you brought it to my attention, and here is what advice I have.

Just be more friendly with everyone. Don't just try to force your way into a conversation. If you have something to say, say it, and do your best to be a better conversationalist, but the key is to be friendly. If you recognize someone from your ward, say hello to them, ask them how their day has gone. Get to know them. If you can do that, then you will start to care about them, and that is how it begins, I think.

I wish I could help more, but that is the advice that I have to give.

TexasRanger said...


Or Fred's suggestion.

Also, start hanging out with more people. Hang out with those you want to become like.

Or be comfortable with who you are.

Sam, The Nanti-SARRMM said...

Thanks for the suggestions.

I'm thinking it is a mix of what Fred said and what you said Tex, hanging out with other people. Because there are moments when I would like to be a bit more out going, to talk and such. But apart from that, I am confortable with myself.

But there's also a certain number of people, that when we all hangout, I end up being shunted to the side and unable to really talk with anyone because everyone is talking with each other. And which most of the girls in my FHE group are a part of. So hence part of the difficulty. And because they're in my FHE group, it just makes those nights more frustrating than most.